International Womens Day: What’s Your Esteem Estimate?

Women are the control center of the universe; this is not a feminist statement but a mere scientific observation.   The relationship between men and women is comparative to a “ball and socket joint”.  Yes, both components are needed to function, however, the socket (women) are the foundation and the control center of operation.  The secret to being a confident woman lies in realizing this fundamental truth; confidence is everything when it comes to getting what you want.  Unfortunately, you can’t fake this attitude; instead, you must adopt the outlook of seeing yourself as worthy and of meaningful value as a woman, which means having a high self-esteem.

The word esteem is derived from estimate.  People take you at your own estimate of yourself; this is the world we live in.   You must price yourself high, while realizing that other people have value too!  One common mistake women make is to sometimes confuse arrogance with confidence!  I am all too familiar with this behavior because I have witnessed it over and over again and it is sadly hopeless.  Confidence is having self-assurance and not relying on others for validation in knowing your self-worth. Arrogance is simply creating an unwarranted hierarchy in your head, feeling and acting like you are just more important than others, and considering most people you encounter beneath your worldly achievements.  It is a superiority complex.  Class ranking of people is ridiculous (when we are not speaking in terms of scholastic GPA)!  Evaluate people based on their individual behavior as opposed to their social status.

What you need to succeed in all your endeavors lies within you.  If you are full of insecurities while seeking relationship security, it’s like going fishing with a basket full of holes for any fish to fall out!  The foundation of your self-esteem should not be constructed from arrogance.  This would be like building a house on unstable grounds that are destined to fall apart in the future.

The following word bank can serve as a guide for the kind of adjectives used to describe a desirable individual:

Kind, funny, smart, interesting, intelligent, intriguing, loving, caring, generous, humble, confident, ambitious, observant, honest, hard working, strong, diligent, enthusiastic, energetic, exciting!  If you can’t pick out at least 5 of these words or it’s synonyms in describing yourself…then you’ve got work to do!

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