Interracial Love Is Just Like Any Other Love

This article originally appeared in the Munaluchi Bride Spring/Summer print edition.

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Stillness spoke and for the first time when it came to love and relationships, my mind and my heart were in tune and  an energy so unexplainably profound, took over my  being.  From that moment on,  I knew without a doubt that having him in my world, was worth fighting for…

Socially and culturally, statistics has shown a lack of support and embrace for interracial relationships, even with the proven rising number of  successful interracial marriages since 1967, when the United States Supreme Court, unanimously ruled that the anti-miscegenation laws were unconstitutional.  Such laws were also repealed in South Africa, during the nearing end of the apartheid era, allowing interracial couples, “allowing me,” the freedom to get married.

Fast-forward decades later, here I am in a love ecstasy state of mind from finding my soul mate, a non-ordinary lover of mine. I am constantly reminded by society, every time we step into the world, about how different we are.  Sadly to them all we are “is that African woman with that Asian man.”  Instead of seeing us past our external differences and realizing that we are no different from any other couple, but maybe blessed with more challenges that have molded us into an even stronger unit.  Love’s philosophy is that “fountains mingle with the river, and the river with the ocean, the winds of  heaven mix forever with a sweet emotion; nothing in the world is single; all things by law divine in one another’s being, so why not I with him”?

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As we plan forth our multicultural day of unity, I inhale in an energy filled with “Agape” and exhale out all negativity from my spiritual, mental, physical, and emotional state of being, and invest in the exciting planning of our “Afro-Asian” wedding theme:  From the modern-western ceremony to the “Afro-Asian” infused wedding reception vision, to the challenges we continue to overcome as we  try to incorporate the most important elements from both of our cultures, we hope to romantically still execute both parts of the wedding tastefully without losing our vision for the wedding. but romantically still execute both parts of the wedding tastefully without losing our vision for the wedding.  For instance, not forgetting to incorporate things of significance to us, like a water feature as water holds a profound significance to us as it does in the Asian “Zen” culture.

As we grow forth from courtship into matrimony, we continue to master the art of compromising for “compromising is to our relationship as a sail is to a boat.” It is through constant compromising that the challenges that come with interracial love have become more of a blessing because of the fairness in balance in all that we do. Our differences we will forever embrace because they are the things we love most about each other.

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As the celestials continue to connect in our honor, the social and cultural prices that we constantly have to pay for loving each other matters.  Through faith, I know that a life time’s journey awaits us so long as our love’s foundation continues to be about us and “just the two of us”  “Never in all the years has love had a color preference.”